Sunday, February 24, 2013

A note about Traylor

Let me just tell you something.
Moving to another country with your spouse pushes your marriage to a whole new level. Being in Korea has been one of the most challenging times of our lives, and probably our marriage. I remember countless conversations about moving to Korea with Traylor before we came. How I wanted to envision what our life would look like here and how we could go through life in another country. Being here has grown my love for this man in ways I can't even count. Both of us are pretty independent beings, and we both wondered what it would be like to being together every second of the day. If I'm honest, I don't know how I would have made it through this year had it been any other way.

In ways I am weak, Traylor is a strong leader. I'm easily swayed by emotions and circumstances. Traylor's best advice ever is "Give God 24 hours." I can't tell you how many times I've freaked out about something, and he patiently and lovingly reminds me that God is always in control. If I just wait, I'll see His faithfulness.

I've needed a strong reminder of that advice lately. It's not a cop-out for him to say those words to me. His love for the Lord is real and a strong encouragement to me. He's the real deal, and even though he's not a perfect human being, he sure does want to live his life so that God will get the glory. I'm thankful for the leader he has grown to being since being in Korea.

I love the little ways that he loves me. I love when he comes into my classroom during break time to check on me and play with my kids. They love him just as much as I do.

There is nothing more tender than watching these kids at our school nestle into his lap. He is so gentle with them, although he definitely likes to pick on them and share jokes. It gives me such joy to watch what a good teacher he is and what a good father he will be to our future children.

Why am I writing all of this? I don't know why I feel so mushy-gushy, but he's been such a blessing to me--especially recently.

Love you my sweet. Thanks for loving me.

In another note, and another example of Traylor reminding me to give God time to work things out...if you could pray for us this week in regards to some visa issues I'm having. I'm trying to come home next week and I need my visit to the immigration office to go smoothly on Thursday. Everything should work out fine, but your prayers are greatly appreciated.






Sunday, February 3, 2013

Korea Update

Well, let’s fast forward 6 months and here we are in February. So much for updating our blog consistently. { Sorry about this friends } Our last blog post was in August?! We’ll save you the monthly details of the last 6 months, and jump straight into the question that many people have been asking us since Christmas, “When are you coming home?” Although our current contracts are up at the end of this month, the answer is that we honestly do not know for sure.  What we can say with certainty is that God is not finished with us in Korea quite yet. I for one have many mixed feelings about staying another year, but after months of prayer and conversations, we firmly believe that it’s not time for us to go back home. In many ways we’ve only recently begun to feel at home here with relationships and the culture. God has blessed us with some really neat friendships, both Korean and with other foreigners. He’s provided for welcomed ministry opportunities within our church and within our relationships. The Lord has grown my faith in Him immensely over this year, and even though my heart is still a little anxious about committing to another year here, He’s given me a definite peace and excitement that I can cling to. Although we have been thankful for our year at Poly school, many of you know that the hours we work have been exhausting. We will not be staying with them for another year. We know God had us there for a reason, and we have loved our students like they were our own kids.  Our weekdays, however, are dominated by our work at school and our weekends are often spent trying to rest up for another week.  This year, we are asking for more time to develop relationships and God has already been faithful in answering these prayers. Traylor’s new school will start in March, and he will work for one of the nicest Korean women we’ve ever met. His hours are 1/3 of the hours at Poly—woohoo! Just a good situation all around. He’ll even get to teach a class at the local University, which will be a really good thing for him.  As for me, I’ll meet with my new director this week to sign a contract beginning in April. My good friend, Leah, also works at this school and helped me get the job, so that’s a pretty nice perk. Since my job starts in April, Traylor and I prayed long and hard about the possibility of me trying to get back to the ol’ USA for a little break in March. I wish we could come back together, but it looks like just I’ll be able to come back for a few weeks!

So, it looks like we’ll be enjoying kimchi for another year. There’s so much more for God to show us, not only of Himself, but of Korea. For starters, I really want to focus on learning Korean this year since we’ll have more time. We’ve also gotten to go pretty consistently to an orphanage our church supports, and that has been really neat. Just within these past few months, we’ve established some relationships with our students’ families, and even though we are leaving Poly, we trust that these relationships will continue. AND, I just went to my first JimJilbang 찜질방 (Bath House/Spa) for the first time not too long ago, so it will be worth to stay just for that : ) 

Thank you for praying for us this year. Please continue to do so! Sometimes I ask God what in the world we are doing here. I remind Him that I’m a weak, anxious little girl who isn’t always as confident as I should be. This week he reminded me of Moses in Exodus 3, as He calls him to go to Pharaoh in Egypt. Moses says in vs 11, “WHO AM I?!! That I should go to Pharaoh and bring back Israel out of Egypt?!” I feel like when I ask God things like that, I really just want God to tell me all of these reassuring things about myself.  That I shouldn’t doubt myself or my abilities. I’m strong enough. I’ll be ok. I’m not that weak. But, God doesn’t answer Moses like that. He actually doesn’t say anything about Moses or his abilities at all. He just says, “BUT I WILL BE WITH YOU...” Oh how I need to remember that. He will be with us. Always. He always has a plan and He already knows this year even when we don’t know what to expect.  

Thanks for journeying with us. Please see the blog before this written by Traylor on our Korean Christmas experience!

Ice Festival with our sweet Korean friends


Halloween
Traylor T the pirate
Julia, my Co-Teacher




Lunch with my kiddo's moms
Andong 
Great Friends



Christmas in Korea.


I (Traylor) am writing this on January 29, 2013 (Korea time) and the last blog that we did was on August. I feel both embarrassed and little bit of shame for not keeping everyone in the loop of our lives over the past…sigh… five months. Regardless, that means we have so much to share with the few people who read our blog.

Since August we have been: persevering through our job at POLY, had a handful of typhoon scares, had a number of our students leave our classes, experienced a Korean Christmas, went to the Philippines, made it safely back from the Philippines, went to an indoor waterpark for kids with an ice house carved in the outside, and somehow made it to the end of January with only four or five weeks remaining in our contracts at POLY. Hannah and I agreed to write different parts of the blog to catch up and I am first up, so I will talk about our Christmas in Korea. 

Our Christmas here really centered on what our school was doing leading up to the holiday. We get one day off for Christmas ‘vacation’, and, that day is Christmas Day. Our school has a big Christmas gathering where our morning students (3-7 year olds) sing songs for their parents and they all clap and cheer and everything is happy and fun for the parents. On the other end of that are the Korean teachers and us who started preparing for this forty minutes of chaos around our American Thanksgiving, so about the third week of November.

I love everything about the Christmas holiday: the old Perry Como songs, the lights, the trees, the stockings. I love it all. So, I started pumping Christmas music into my kids around week three of November. We chose “Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer” to sing and create a dance with and Hannah’s class sang “Jingle Bells”. My class also sang “Have a Holly Jolly Christmas” with a dance with the other class their age. Since these kids are on display for their parents, we both ended up practicing these songs to the point where my kids were sick of “Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer” by week two of December.

We ended up persevering through all of the stress that is put on teachers and kids for perfection (I think kids’ plays are better with a little ‘goofing around’ and when kids aren’t on-key with their voices, but that may just be me) and made it through the performance. Thankfully, I have a girl named ‘Rosie’, who sings her little guts out at everything, carried my class through the performance. She is, by far, the loudest girl at our school when she sings, or when she yells at other students. Her mom is a police officer so I think she gets some of it from her mommy.

We came back from the performance and all of the parents brought food and we had a little social at our school with all of the teachers and parents. The moms brought all kinds of food that they thought we would like: Pizza Hut pizza, fried chicken, cheese, and fruits. They also made a lot of Korean foods as well: noodles, fish, rice balls, fish balls, and a lot of kimchee. It was great sitting with our parents and getting to discuss their kids (in broken English) with them as we rarely get to experience that. The next day we had Santa come to our school. Santa was a random foreigner who was paid 50 bucks to come and give out presents to our kids that their moms had bought. Our school really tried to have a ‘western’ Christmas, and, of course, Santa is part of that. It was really special to get to see our kids opening up gifts for Christmas. A lot of our kids got a stuffed dog named Brownie (look it up) that is essentially a stuffed blue eyed malamute that you could win from throwing darts at the fair, but some marketing genius in Korea has swooned our kids into wanting it, and most of them got it. Legos are really popular here as well (Ninja-go) as well as Transformers. A lot of our girls got dresses and things like that; I think I’m ready to be a daddy after experiencing all of that.

After that we had Christmas Day and we celebrated that by having a brunch at our friends, Chris and Leah’s apartment. My awesome wife made some mean hash browns and pancakes with real syrup. Leah made bacon and eggs. It was one of the most delicious meals I’ve eaten in quite a while. It made me feel like I was in Wagener with my grandma and the rest of my family.

One of the best things about Christmas was that my friend Mark came to visit from Africa. He is working for CURE and came and visited his girlfriend over the break and they also made a stop by Changwon during Christmas, it was truly a blessing to get to see him for the short amount of time that I did.

Christmas is Korea is a little different than in America. We came into Christmas thinking it would be hard to find Christmas lights around our city and that it would be a dreary place over the holidays. Korea certainly doesn’t have the ‘magic’ or ‘commercialization’ of Christmas that the states has, but we were surprised by the amount of decorations we saw. We had a GIANT Christmas tree in the middle of our city (in the middle of a rotary) that was always lit up and our local malls had Christmas lights and trees as well so that was nice. Christmas in Korea seemed like Korea was about 30 years behind where America is on the holiday and they rapidly threw up some things regarding Christmas. Some of it was comforting for us and some of it was just comical (Santa with Angel’s wings).


Christmas Lights in Busan
Korean Santa



Christmas Program 



Our favorite 4th graders


Santa comes to Poly
Christmas Day
Marks comes to visit!

Traylor and Mark